In general, you have been around a "psychic vampire".They are those persons you feel drained,sometimes nauseated or depressed after seeing or talking with on the phone.They may have no idea of the effect they are having on you.
An outstanding faculty associate used to ,when speaking of patients, refer to this as "the vacuum Cleaner syndrome" ie all energy is sucked from you.Same thing.
Although the other may not realize the effect.It is important that you learn to reserve your own energy rather than allow it to be depleted.There are several ways.One is to simply not spending time (or energy) with that person.
If this is not possible,limit the time of the visit or phone call telling them initially hoe long such as "5 minutes tops" notify them one or two minutes before the time ends and when it ends let that be known and hang up or leave.
Some more spiritually inclined say a prayer and surround themselves with white light before the encounter.
A psychic author advises dealing with it in the following manner.(My preference is the time limiting as above.)
"... This does not mean that you should accuse this person of being a vampire or say that you will not speak to him or her again because he or she is sucking off your energy. If you do, this person will think you have gone off the deep end. In that case, your problem will be solved, because he or she will probably not care to see you after that. Most people still are not open to the subtle aspects of energy, and you must keep this in mind when dealing with them.
It is easier just to correct the situation without saying a word about it. You can control whether another shares your energy or not. One of the simplest methods is to close your circuit of energy. There are currents of energy flowing through your body and around it within the auric field. You can close them down so that your energies only circulate around your own auric field and throughout your body. You prevent your energies from being drawn off from the aura, and you prevent your aura from drawing in another's energy.
fingers together so they are touching. (If you wish, you can use just your thumbs and index fingers.) This close your circuit. Your energy will not go out from you.
The next time you encounter your friend who drains you, assume this posture. Simply rest your hands casually on your lap, touch your fingers and cross your ankles. It is casual and simple, and no one will suspect you of anything. You can also do this when on the phone with such people.
If you do this, you will get some feedback through other friends as to the effects. You may hear comments such as, "You are just not as nice,' "You are not as open" as you used to be.
This has nothing to do with being mad at people. You will still be talking with them as nicely and as often as ever. What you are not doing is allowing them to take your energy! You simply are not allowing them to drain you. Because they are not getting "high" from you, they are assuming something is wrong. No one has the right to take your energy without your permission."
The idea in psychology is that you are in charge of your own feelings.No one can make you feel unless you allow it...I agree with that.As important as learning that you can not change anyone but yourself...
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And even if you don't believe in your aura/energy being drained...doing this will conciously remind you that you WON'T allow this person to 'bring you down', so you are less likely to be caught up in their negative emotions!
interesting blog
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